Overcoming Fear and Addiction Step by Step

At the Greenfield Center’s Intensive Outpatient Program we address various issues that contribute to addiction. The following are some of the steps we take when treating addictive disorders. If you or a loved one needs help, please contact our addiction doctors now!

Overcoming Fear and Addiction Step by Step: There is a wonderful anachronism for FEAR:

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Much of the fear in our lives is based on false evidence that appears to be real.

Our bodies are designed to respond with the fight or flight mechanism to real and present danger. Such as being physically attacked. In the face of real and present danger, the adrenaline flows and the blood drains out of our organs and brain and into our limbs to prepare us for fight or flight.

Yet many people spend much of their time in the anxiety and stress of fight or flight when there is no real and present danger. This is because the body responds the same way to imagined danger as it does to real danger. The body thinks that the false evidence coming from our thoughts is real.

This constant state of fear and anxiety often leads to various addictions in the hope of numbing out the difficult feelings. Food, alcohol, drugs, nicotine, gambling, sex, TV, shopping, approval, attention, work, anger, rage, violence to self and others – all can be used in attempts to block out painful feelings.

At the Greenfield Center’s Intensive Outpatient Treatment Program we explore, the addictions themselves are an abandonment of self, in that they are not a healthy and loving way of dealing with painful feelings. And it is self-abandonment that causes the most fear, anxiety, and depression.

Thus, many people are caught in a very negative circle based on self-abandonment:

Thinking negative thoughts about the future – about rejection, failure, loss of others, loss of self, loss of money – creates fear in the body and is an abandonment of self.

We are abandoning ourselves when we are allowing ourselves to make up thoughts about the future that scare us. This would be like saying to a child, “You are going to end up alone. No one will ever love you. You will be out on the streets with no food and no help.” Saying this to a child would be considered child abuse, yet many people tell these same things to themselves over and over when there is no objective truth to these statements.

Once we have created fear with our negative thinking, we try to void the fear with our various addictions.
A void responsibility for creating our fear by turning to addictions is another self-abandonment.

This is like offering a frightened child a cookie instead of addressing the source of the fear. The self-abandonment creates deep inner emptiness and aloneness, which perpetuates the addictive behavior. It also creates neediness, leading to pulling on others for love, approval and attention.

Addictive behavior perpetuates the original fears – an endless vicious circle of self-abandonment.

The Jacksonville, FL Intensive Outpatient Program looks helps people address their fears.

MOVING BEYOND FEAR AND ADDICTION

There really is a way out of this! While the process of moving beyond fear and addiction is simple, it is not easy. It takes deep commitment and devotion to your peace and joy.

  1. Choose the willingness to feel your painful feelings and take responsibility for creating them, rather than continue avoiding them with your various addictions. It is only when you are willing to be with your feelings rather than avoid them that you can learn about how you are creating your own pain.
  2. Consciously decide that you want to learn about what you are thinking or doing that is causing your pain.
  3. Dialogue with the part of you that is in fear and pain – you can think of this feeling part of you of a child within – about how you are causing the pain. Discover your thoughts and actions that are causing your pain.
  4. Open to learning with a Higher Power – your own highest wisest self, an inner teacher or mentor, a guardian angel, God – about what is the truth regarding your negative thinking and what the loving action is toward yourself.
  5. Take the loving action for yourself that you are guided to do in Step 4.
  6. Notice how you feel. If you feel more peaceful, then you know that you have taken loving action. If not, then you need to go back through these steps to discover another loving action.

Happiness Is Essential to a Successful Alcohol Addiction Recovery

Many who are considering drug or alcohol rehab are scared for one reason – they find joy and happiness in drugs and alcohol like they never-have in any other activity. They are terrified that if they stop drinking or using drugs that they will never be happy again and that it will be too hard to learn how to find pleasure any other way.

Those who fear they will be unable to find happiness in recovery are right about one thing – it isn’t always easy. Drugs and alcohol are an easy way to find pleasure and happiness – and the pleasure and happiness are almost always immediately followed by feelings of shame, guilt, emotional pain and physical illness. Almost any other form of happiness that isn’t followed by these negative emotions is a better choice, but it does take a little practice and a little effort on the part of the patient.

The Greenfield Center’s Intensive Outpatient Program focuses on learning how to be happy.

Learning How to Be Happy

Happiness is not an emotion that comes naturally. For many, it is a learned activity. If you don’t know what will make you happy in the world (aside from drugs and alcohol for the first part of the high), then you need to experiment.

  • Have an interest in photography? Take a class or check a book out of the library to find out more about it.
  • Love movies? Watch some, and find others who like them too – watch together!
  • Like to eat? Learn how to cook amazing dishes.
  • Interested in losing weight or changing your appearance in some way? Start a serious workout and diet regimen that prioritizes health.

If you don’t find something you love or that makes you happy, keep looking until you do!

There are so many things to do that could be your new favorite happiness-inducing thing – flower arranging, yoga, karate, anew language, travel, anything. Don’t give up until you find yours.

Finding happiness despite pressures of Sobriety

It’s not easy to stay clean and sober in early recovery. You often have to change friends, move, find a new job – all things that are difficult even for someone who has never had a drug and alcohol addiction issue. It’s important that you never forget to attend to your sobriety, doing everything you have to do to stay on track and focused – build a support system, attend 12-step meetings, find a personal therapist, consider group therapy or medication if depression is a co-occurring issue, and ask for help when you need it. Maintain a recovery plan while you seek out your new happiness-inducing activity and you’re sure to get to a place where contentment comes to you naturally.

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